Can you hear me now?

04 Sep

Paar im Restaurant schaut auf HandysPhoto credit

Months ago, the hubby and I made a pact that when we returned to the States and got smart phones, we would not use them while eating. We’d seen couples, and even entire families, sitting around the table in a pub, fish and chips growing cold and soggy on their plates, completely ignoring each other as they scanned sports scores, checked emails, and texted friends. We vowed that as a couple, we would not let technology undermine common mealtime etiquette or rob us of civilized dinner conversation.

As discouraged as we are at the way smart phones seem to be encapsulating individuals in their own private bubbles, tonight we were privy to a most annoying alternative.

The couple seated behind us in Applebee’s placed their order, then whipped out a single iPhone, on which they proceeded to watch a movie. Seated on opposite sides of the table. At full volume. Competing with the restaurant’s satellite music channel, the bartender using her decidedly non-inside voice to explain the computerized ordering system to a trainee, and the screaming toddler banging her mother’s cutlery on the table all the way across the restaurant.

I’m sorry. If you want to watch a movie while you eat, call ahead for Carside-To-Go and enjoy your meal in front of your big screen AT HOME. Because I did not come here to listen to your movie.

I wanted a relaxing dinner. I wanted to spend some quality time with the hubby. I wanted to talk to him. And hear his responses.

We couldn’t have held a conversation if we’d tried. Maybe we should have used the time to check our email.


Posted by on September 4, 2013 in How It Is, Observations, What's She On About?


4 responses to “Can you hear me now?

  1. Janet domino

    September 5, 2013 at 6:32 AM

    Wow! I know what you are talking about though about people being in their own private bubbles!

    • dreaminofobx

      September 8, 2013 at 9:11 PM

      Of course, when the inconsiderate are talking very loudly about very private matters in the middle of Chick-fil-A, I wish they’d disappear into a private bubble!

  2. helenrj

    September 6, 2013 at 1:55 AM

    That’s horrible. To quote Emily Post: “Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”

    • dreaminofobx

      September 8, 2013 at 9:09 PM

      Emily Post is a smart lady, and I try really, really hard to have that awareness. I think I developed it as a result of always moving and being the new kid…I learned to watch and observe in order to fit in, but as I got older (and became more aware of speech and nonverbal cues as much as action) it expanded to eventually watching for more than which fork to use. And, when in doubt, I always fall back on, “What would my mama think of this?” 🙂


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